From a Teen Librarian’s perspective
It Starts with You!
Have you ever wondered why things just have not gone right for you? Well, in my experience, I learned that is starts with you. What do I mean by that? I mean you get what you give! Everything in life is reciprocal (give-and-take); for example, you have a friendship that is in turmoil and you cannot seem to understand one another’s positions; sometime you have to ask yourself “Am I the problem?” or “What toxic things have I contributed to the relationship that could have caused so much chaos?” Another step that you can take is self-evaluation. You can start by asking yourself a couple self-reflecting questions like, what is bothering me and why? What is it that I want from this friendship or person and am I using clear communication to express to my listener? Knowing the answers to these questions may help you figure out where you went wrong and it may also help you understand why your friend reacts and feel the way they do toward you. Lastly, after you have realistically asked and answered your self-reflecting questions share your information with your buddy; tell him/her about the process and why you did it. Encourage your friend to participate and share their answers as well. Here at Carnegie Library we have lots of teen reading material that will help guide you on your journey to fixing your friendship. So come check us out, after all a productive and reciprocal friendship is worth saving!
Help yourself by helping others!
Volunteer, volunteer, volunteer! Through volunteerism, I learned that helping others with no need or want of compensation really makes you feel great inside. Being a part of something greater than yourself, allows you to lucidly understand that you are fortunate and that you some of your daily problems are mediocre and easily fixable. Secondly volunteering helps connect you with other. For example, one of the best ways to make new friends and strengthen existing relationships is to commit to a shared activity together. Volunteering is a great way to meet new people, especially if you are new to an area. Volunteering also strengthens your ties to the community and broadens your support network, exposing you to people with common interests, neighborhood resources, and fun and fulfilling activities. Third, volunteering is good for your mind and body. Volunteering can provide a healthy boost to your self-confidence, self-esteem, and life satisfaction. You are doing good for others and the community, which provides a natural sense of accomplishment. Your role as a volunteer can also give you a sense of pride and identity. And the better you feel about yourself, the more likely you are to have a positive view of your life and future goals. Last but not least, from my experience, volunteering can advance your career without making a long-term commitment. For example, if you’re interested in nursing, you could volunteer at a hospital or a nursing home. Your volunteer work might also expose you to professional organizations or internships that could be of benefit to your career. As you can see, there are many advantages with volunteer. Did you know that you can volunteer at Carnegie Library of Pittsburgh? We love and support our teen volunteers, because you are the reason why our organization thrives! See your branch Teen Librarian for more details; he/she will be happy to assist you!