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Did any of the loving caring adults in your life ever tell you not to talk back? Well, according to this study by researchers at the University of Virgina, arguing actually helps you to develop skills you’ll need later in life when navigating through troubled relationship waters.
157 thirteen year old teens were video taped while describing a big blow up between them and their parents. What were the fights about – you ask? I think you can assume: grades, chores, money, and friends. Next, the video was shown to both the parents and the teens, and their reactions afterward were documented.
Then, 2 years later, the now 15 year old teens were interviewed again to determine their relationship with their peers. Turns out that those teens who were able to argue effectively with their parents – who were “calm and confident” reacted similarly when confronted with tricky situations amongst their peers. How does arguing effectively with your parents help you in other areas of your life?
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If you find yourself tongue tied when confronted with a disagreement, try getting some tips and tricks on effective communication from one of these titles. These skills just may come in handy in other areas of your life!
Breaking the Code: Two Teens Reveal the Secrets to Better Parent-Child Communication by Lara Fox and Hilary Frankel
How to Raise Your Parents: A Teen Girl Survival Guide by Sarah O’Leary Burningham
What’s Up With My Family? by Annie Fox
Good luck communicating!!